What makes that especially interesting to me is that the word originally meant a twist or bend. Eventually, it came to describe sexual interests outside what was considered “normal.”

But “normal” has changed quite a bit.

So I’m curious: What makes something a kink to you rather than simply something you enjoy sexually?

And does the label even matter?

Except I’m not sure that’s true.

What turns us on can change with age, experience, relationships, confidence, our bodies, and simply learning more about ourselves. Something that once seemed incredibly important can lose its appeal. Something we never imagined finding attractive can suddenly become difficult to ignore.

So, has your sexuality changed as you’ve gotten older? Maybe it’s what attracts you physically. Maybe your fantasies have changed. Maybe sex itself means something different to you now.

What turns you on today that your younger self might not have understood?