Desire is one of those things we sometimes talk about as though it is fixed. You like what you like. You’re attracted to what you’re attracted to. End of story.

Except I’m not sure that’s true.

What turns us on can change with age, experience, relationships, confidence, our bodies, and simply learning more about ourselves. Something that once seemed incredibly important can lose its appeal. Something we never imagined finding attractive can suddenly become difficult to ignore.

So, has your sexuality changed as you’ve gotten older? Maybe it’s what attracts you physically. Maybe your fantasies have changed. Maybe sex itself means something different to you now.

What turns you on today that your younger self might not have understood?