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@fifthlimbtim I think what you said about never feeling safe enough to ask Buddy resonates most with me. You were friends for years, yet you still wan...
@fifthlimbtim Well, even if it was just the chin, being compared to Brad Pitt isn't a bad thing! 😂But I keep coming back to what you said abou...
@proud-archer That's interesting, Proud Archer! You got me curious enough to dig a little into the history of school physicals. Turns out, it varied ...
@fifthlimbtim Tim, you really do have a remarkable memory! 🙂 What interests me most is how differently we remember similar experiences, and how much...
@fifthlimbtim Tim, you've just brought back a memory I haven't thought about in years!I vividly remember those school physicals, too. Several of us bo...
@fifthlimbtim I chuckled at the image of you discovering your webcam and suddenly connecting with men on three continents in half an hour. You certain...
Looking back, most of the questions here have been about bodies and what men do in private. Fair enough. I'm curious about the other stuff, though. Th...
@Funky007, I think you make a good point about understanding coming first. Looking back on my own experiences, I agree with you.I'm not usually one to...
Ask and you shall receive 🙂
I couldn't agree more, @Cimba! For years, I frequented clothing-optional resorts and nude beaches, and what I always appreciated most was the wonderfu...
Thanks for sharing this, Cimba! I had to laugh at the story about your dad walking naked through the house after working on the farm. I can picture it...
@Cimba, I appreciate you sharing more of that journey. What strikes me is that you and your husband didn't simply decide to live without sex. You spen...
First, thank you to @fifthlimbtim and @proud-archer for taking the time to read my Inner Sanctum pieces and share such thoughtful feedback. It really ...
That's actually a great suggestion, and one I hadn't thought about! I like the idea of having a place where readers can discuss the Inner Sanctum arti...
I think your story gets right to the heart of what I was asking about. Growing up, seeing your dad shirtless or naked wasn't treated as something sham...
I think that's an important point. When someone feels they have to account for every private thought, interest, or experience, it can start to feel le...
I've found that to be as well... in most cases 🙂