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That's an interesting distinction. You're not uncomfortable with nudity itself. You're more concerned about making someone else uncomfortable. I thi...
😂 Well, you've certainly got me on the hairline! I've been bald since high school, so I never got to enjoy a full head of hair long enough t...
That's an interesting way to draw the line between privacy and secrecy, especially the idea of who might get hurt if something were discovered. Your...
@cimba I don't think that sounds strange. What stands out to me is how comfortable you and your husband seem with yourselves and each other. You've b...
@Proud Archer, I really like your treasure chest analogy. It makes an important distinction between intimacy developing over time and simply becoming ...
Welcome to the conversation, @Cimba! You've made an important distinction there. A little playful banter between friends can be perfectly harmless, ...
Thanks for sharing all of that! Quite a journey from those awkward locker room days to where you are today. I think a lot of us can relate to feeling ...
@proud-archer That's an interesting observation, and I think there's something to it. When sex is a regular part of a relationship, I suppose it's eas...
@Funky007 That's a good point. I guess for some guys, finding someone attractive naturally leads to flirting or seeing where things might go. For othe...
@Funky007 You know, I really appreciate the way you've talked about this, particularly how comfortable you seem to be with your own sexuality and how ...
I think the distinction you’re making between the penis by itself and the penis as part of the whole person is interesting. It also complicates my ear...
@proud-archer That analogy actually works pretty well for me because it separates the two without putting one above the other. They may involve some o...
@proud-archer That actually doesn’t surprise me, and I think I understand the distinction better now. You’re not looking back at 25 years and thinking...
That’s an interesting way to quantify it. I’m not sure I could put a percentage on it myself, but I understand the larger point. There probably has to...
I can relate to the idea that my range has widened. I think mine has too. I find men attractive now who probably wouldn’t have registered with me at a...
That’s an interesting distinction between masturbation as something driven by sexual orientation and masturbation simply as an individual sexual behav...