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I think you’re right that a lot of it probably makes no rational sense when you really examine it. We inherit these rules about what men are supposed ...
I can definitely relate to the transitional stage part. I think that makes it harder because friendships that once happened almost automatically now r...
I agree that loneliness can be surprisingly hard to explain, especially because it doesn’t necessarily depend on how many people are around us. You ca...
I think you’re right that admiration is probably a big part of it. We notice other men all the time- how they look, carry themselves, dress, their con...
What strikes me in your answer is how clearly you separate two things that often get tangled together. You'd like more partnered sex than you're havin...
That’s a good point. Fear changes the equation because once it enters the conversation, we’re no longer necessarily responding to what the other perso...
I think you’ve hit on something with the idea of exploration. Maybe a kink isn’t simply something we enjoy, but something we’re curious enough about t...
I like that distinction. Appreciating someone doesn’t automatically create an intention toward them. Sometimes an attractive man is simply an attracti...
I think you’re right that the word has lost much of the negative baggage it once carried. What I find interesting, though, is that if “kink” has broad...
That’s interesting, because I’ve noticed the same thing. What I considered attractive at 25 isn’t necessarily what catches my attention now. My sense ...
I can understand that. Misinterpretation may be one of the biggest reasons we hold things back, especially with someone whose perspective or experienc...
I think you’re right that many of us learned pretty early to keep things close to the vest. Even when we know that isn’t always good for us, it can be...
I can relate to the idea that making friends can actually get easier as we get older. I think knowing yourself better probably has a lot to do with th...
Absolutely. Attraction happens. What we choose to do with it is something else entirely. And I think the friendship part matters. You can find a guy...
You know, that’s a really good point. I asked the question using the word “sex” as though we all automatically mean the same thing by it. Clearly, we ...
I think you’re right. Loneliness is interesting because I suspect a lot of men experience it without ever calling it loneliness. Fear may be much the ...
I think I understand what you mean. There’s something pretty freeing about being around other men and not feeling like everything has to be labeled, e...
HA! No worries 🙂