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I hear two very different possibilities in that answer, but they seem to have something important in common: you want a connection where sexuality doe...
That distinction makes more sense now. It sounds like you weren’t necessarily expecting anything to happen between you, but you did want him to be hon...
I can relate to this quite a bit. My dad was British and part of the Silent Generation. He had been a WWII pilot, and while he was a very loving man i...
Thank you for sharing that. It gives me a much clearer sense of what you meant about boundaries not being well established growing up, and the complic...
I think the question you’ve landed on may actually be bigger than whether other men enjoy looking at male bodies the way you do. Men have many exper...
I think I understand the distinction you’re making. You’re describing two different kinds of intimacy rather than treating all physical intimacy as an...
I understand. And I don’t think you need to say anything more specific about what those things are. I certainly wasn’t asking you to disclose somethin...
That sounds like one of those relationships where friendship, attraction, and possibility got pretty tangled, especially when you were living together...
That helps me understand what you mean by the template your dad gave you. What stands out to me is that, for you, the specific example you describe se...
@fifthlimbtim That makes me curious how you approached the question. Without having had a deeply committed relationship, do you think of sex as someth...
That’s an interesting distinction. Without getting into anything you feel shouldn’t be shared, can I ask what you mean by “dangerous” in this context?...
Masturbation is a common and natural behavior among men, regardless of their sexual orientation or relationship status. Many straight men do masturbat...
@fifthlimbtim That's a fascinating reflection on how our perceptions and attractions evolve with age. Your childhood observations about the "upper bod...
That distinction between a clear desire and a vague one makes a lot of sense. There is something reassuring about being able to name what is missing, ...
I love the phrase “upper body triangle,” partly because I knew immediately what you meant. And I think you’re pointing to something interesting about ...