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An exclusive committed ideal relationship, yes, it would need to be part of the picture. There is a concept I carry which is easily misunderstood, so ...
I have never had a deeply committed relationship. Ever.
There were times over the years when one or two times I was able to use the minimum amount of filter, speaking in generalities, alluding to things tha...
The main thing that I wish I could know from other men is "Do you enjoy looking at these in the same way I do?" because it is a multi-level appreciati...
Firstly, an acid test would be phallic openness. I have had a couple of friends, one in childhood and one in adulthood who were deadset against allowi...
The upper body triangle was a thing when I was five years old and it was summer and my Dad was teaching me that boys go shirtless in the summer. To ge...
Do all men have a thing for penises? Is the association we develop between how we react to the sight of our own and the sight of others' a universal t...
Somewhat. Out of necessity, when I was young, we were lucky to get a rare glimpse of a penis. What was readily available was shirtlessness. Everywhere...
Not really. What I am glad about is how it is a clear desire, not a vague one. Vagueness would amp up the angst. My Dad managed to come down to my lev...
Around puberty. For me, from the age of ten to twelve, 5th grade to 7th grade, it was a totally different world. Before, everyone was honest, and ther...