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Another attitude that gradually developed in me, not sure if it was related to the timing of my involvement in men's groups (MKP and others), is the n...
It was a gradual shift. I dated a handful of women, the last around 2000. I was taken aback when she said I looked like Brad Pitt, until she explained...
Yes, and I was friends with Buddy until I moved away in 8th grade, and it never felt safe to ask about his viewpoint. He was the youngest of five brot...
Ever after, I would re-enact the moves with my own hands, as much as possible.In total:I was first in line, with Ricky, Jummy, and Buddy to my left. W...
My psychosexual development was largely influenced by my urinating with my father until the age of ten.And by having been handled during a physical ex...
In my 20s-30s very much so, and the chronic pain only underscored my sense of inferiority in romance and career, the two stones that ground away at me...
I forgot to suggest a thread for feedback or discussion of your Inner Sanctum postings. Your latest "Nothing to Prove" one was a thorough look at curr...
See his "dad bod" through the years gave me a rough idea of what to expect as I aged. He would often sit at the table eating lunch shirtless and Mom w...
Being that I have no male siblings, I did not have any way of knowing what is other men's experience with their real brothers growing up together with...
I took swimming lessons at the local pool when I was 12, and had to go through the men's :locker room" to get to the pool. I was uneasy about having t...
I would say that as long as the areas of boundary difference are not more than say 30%, then there is enough latitude for bonding that can last.
I would say my range of appreciation has widened over the years, but I still have a more powerful charge from the younger men. What matters more now i...
Nothing as relational as that, but simply owning up to how much he enjoys being a man, and having the balls to revel in it with other men, down to a l...
I voted before I saw your instructions, which made nonsense of my response. I was referring to my opinion of men in general, not myself.
Evidently, my list is a lot shorter than most guys. Where the heck are they? This is anonymous, so grow a pair gentlemen! My Dad was in the generation...
There were two clear incidents where I was able to tell that he had an attraction or turn on by men, one by seeing his browsing history on the compute...
Hard to say. It would be too good to be true to finally lose my virginity on the woman meant for me. The one sensation I most long for is what I read ...
I was too emotionally close to my mother. When they had conflict she turned to me for emotional comfort. But aside from that, she had a pet name for m...
My "old flame" was a man 20 years younger than me, a former roommate and more. In his prime he was ripped. I couldn't help but drop hints, especially ...
Illegality, being outed as such and thus a ruined public identity and a criminal record.