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One improvement would be to change how quoted text is displayed. Pale yellow on pale taupe is impossible for me to read!
Many people (both men and women) have learned that intercourse is the only valid form of sex. For those who’ve internalized this discourse, the absenc...
For some guys that I know, attraction necessarily means flirting and sex. So the question is a valid one.
We are raised to believe the exact opposite, and that is terribly sad. I'm happy @proud-archer mentions this. Granted, for some people (men or women),...
For me, what has changed is the age of the men I find attractive. Thankfully, the men I like have gotten older as I've gotten older myself!
It used to mean an "unusual sexual practice with a partner, especially one that objectifies someone". A kink was negative, some kind of perversion, li...
My husband and I keep reminding each other that telepathy doesn't work. We have to tell each other what we think, what we'd like, what we want (or don...
I'll use an expression once said by one of my high school teachers: "Looking at the menu doesn't mean you have to eat everything that's on it." As I w...
I'm not in the same situation as FifthLimbTim, but I couldn't tell someone "absolutely anything". That's the kind of relationship or discussion girls/...
It's become much easier than in my teens and early 20s. Back then, I was still confused about my own sexual orientation, and I felt estranged. I wasn'...
I'm gay, so of course I've been attracted to straight guys — friend or not. But being attracted and acting on it are two different things! I respect m...
Define "sex"! For me, masturbation is sex. In fact, it's the most important kind of sex in my life. Since discovering it at age 11, I have almost neve...
Men have a hard time opening up about anything that might show they could be vulnerable. Loneliness and fear are, hence, my top votes.