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I am a little younger than you two are @fifthlimbtim and @tony-admin, but not much younger. I went to public school in the northeastern United States....
I rather like that you left us readers with that uncertainty, @tony-admin. It added dimension to the story.
I also like this suggestion. Though the subject matter of much of your Inner Sanctum writing, @tony-admin, is outside of my sphere interest, “Unheld...
It occurred to me that @funky007 and I are saying much the same thing. A real danger to a relationship where the sex drives differ is that the individ...
That’s a rather fascinating journey @cimba. It’s interesting how discovering your husband’s desires helped you learn about your own.
I'm curious what you think. Can respecting a partner's privacy actually express trust, rather than limit intimacy? I think the answer is yes. In f...
I'm curious: if you knew the other men around you were completely at ease with nudity, would you feel just as relaxed? Yes. If I knew the other me...
I’m uncomfortable being naked around other men only because I fear they’re uncomfortable.
Jealous of another man’s life? No. Life has dealt me a good hand of cards. I’m happy with that. Jealous of another man’s hairline? Well, that’s anot...
When I was in High School, I took a Psychology and Sociology class. The course curriculum was excellent, and it was taught by a kick-ass teacher. I re...
I do wonder, though, whether having less sex actually creates a deeper intimacy, or whether it simply makes us more aware of what was already there. M...
Ironically, mismatched sex drives in a long term relationship can be more illuminating. Deeper intimacy reveals itself more readily when unencumbered ...
Do all men have a thing for penises? I can’t speak for other guys on the straight side of the spectrum, @fifthlimbtim, but for me, in general, I w...
For both of you, masturbation isn't a substitute for partnered sex or a sign that something is missing. It's a constant, and partnered sex complements...
“Knowing what you know now, after 25 years, what would you look for that you might not have known to look for the first time around?” It’s a great...
I am a straight oriented, married (to a woman) man who has routinely masturbated since age twelve. I don’t masturbate daily, but I have maintained a c...
Male masturbation. The true national (international) pastime that no one talks about. This is starting change, but no one discusses masturbation in...
I’m having a hard time making close friends at this transitionary stage of my life. I have a number of friends, some for decades, but no one outside o...
Loneliness, I think, is particularly difficult for men to talk about because it is both emotional and hard to explain. Some would view it as a type of...